With the internet having an every day presence in most of our lives. Its’ not surprising that more and more people are meeting their partners online. I personally know couples who met on dating sites that are in long term relationships, and even my dad has friends who met online.
After being single for several years, I was encouraged by a work colleague to try a dating app. I checked it out and decided it wasn’t for me, but instead signed up for a few dating sites. Roughly a month passed with no promising responses – in fact, I had some very questionable emails from complete weirdos.
Then in January 2014 I gave the dating app another try. A few strange matches later and I started chatting to a man who seemed relatively normal, and made me laugh out loud reading his messages. I became a detective and – with only his first name and workplace – managed to find him on Facebook. All clear. No worrying photos or overly private page to make me suspicious. Another 3 weeks passed and I agreed to meet him for a date. So on the 31st January 2014, I met my now wonderful partner at a lovely Thai restaurant in Glasgow.
I had so many doubts about meeting him, I nearly got off the train on my way there. His profile photo was him and 2 beautiful women – who turned out to be his sisters – and how did I know he was safe to meet? I reluctantly told my family and 1 of my best friends, so they could find him on Facebook if he tried to kill me. Joking aside, these are real fears!
Luckily, at the time of posting we’ve been together 3.5 years. It’s been an adventure so far! We spent 2 years living in Bristol, moving in together after only 9 months knowing each other. Now we are living at my parents while we save for a mortgage.
Why I’m Glad We Met Online
When we first started chatting, we really got to know about each other. I learned all about his family, hobbies, likes and dislikes, what movies he loved and got an insight into his day to day life. We moved from the dating app onto texting quickly, and I felt like he was honest and uncomplicated. I was right. He is one of the most laid back people I’ve ever known, he doesn’t get hung up on silly things that don’t matter, and is so easy to be friends with.
In the past, I found I was attracted to the wrong kind of people for me. Often dating people who weren’t interested in a relationship to see if I could change their mind. Or the ‘bad boys’ because… well, we just do, don’t we? Yes, online dating is superficial. We look at someone and decide if we like them based on that, but that’s how real life works too.
The difference with finding a partner online, is you can connect with them via messaging first. Finding out how good a match you are before using up precious time dating someone who isn’t right for you. I personally feel that if someone puts in the effort to message/text you every day, all day for 3 weeks then they must be genuinely interested. We never ran out of things to talk about and he made me laugh all the time – and still does.
As my other half is a kind and respectful person, I don’t know that we would have met in a bar. I wouldn’t have approached him, and I doubt he would’ve approached me. He’s not the type to hound and annoy a group of girls, or single one out. So, every day I am thankful that we met online. He’s my best friend, my life partner, my rock and all the other cheesy titles you can think of.
Giving Online Dating a Try
If you are thinking of trying out online dating, I recommend it. There’s no obligation to talk to or meet up with anyone. Just put yourself out there and see what happens. If you do decide to meet up with someone, tell a friend or family member where you are going and when you expect to be home. Also, the persons name and any information you have on them. Better safe than sorry.
Although I’ve not named the site throughout this post, I have to be honest – we met on Tinder. Which doesn’t have the best reputation for successful dating and I think everyone has heard stories of how some people use it. However, there are genuine people out there, it’s not all players and cheaters. I spent the last 30 minute downloading Tinder again to find our old conversations. It has changed so much! You can ‘super like’ people now, what does that even mean?
Good luck if you are trying it out, or if you’ve already met your partner then I’d love to hear any unusual stories or online dating successes. Send them my way.